I was honored by my pal JT’s request to write up a quick blog post here and share with you an excerpt from my eBook How to Make Girls Chase: Every Tactic and Technique You Need to Get the Girl(s) of Your Dreams. JT’s a fantastic guy, and our styles in the social arts are pretty closely aligned — both of us keep things direct and to-the-point, and neither of us likes wasting time or effort on wishing or hoping for things to happen.
The excerpt I selected for this post was on taking charge and making things happen with women quickly and decisively. Failing to do so is one of the cardinal sins of men who struggle with getting all the success with women they want, and I talk about why that is here, how regular guys see things with girls, and how you need to start viewing things if you want to get massive, runaway success with them.
Read on…
We’re careful when much is at stake. When you’re crossing a busy street, you look both ways, and proceed with caution. If you fail to do so, you might be gravely injured by a speeding vehicle. When you’re trying to solve a complicated problem on an important exam, you slowly work your way through.
Well, it’s a common mindset that most men apply to dating too – if a guy really likes a girl, he takes things slow. Because he doesn’t want to make a mistake.
One of the main indicators a woman looks for as a determinant of how likely a man is to be successful with women is confidence; and one of the main indicators of confidence is how quickly and self-assuredly a man progresses with her.
When men take their time, they seem less confident. They then come off as less successful with women and thus, less desirable. Women lose interest in slow moving men, and then the slow moving men get frustrated and tear their hair out and wonder why they can never get girls. And slow moving men, by moving so slow, give themselves a lot of time to make mistakes, missteps, and generally muck things up for themselves – opportunities for error that fast moving men avoid.
Men who move fast with women are thus more attractive and more effective than men who take things slow.
Now you might say, wait, women always say they appreciate a man who’s a gentleman and isn’t in a rush to make things happen.
Our response to that is a mindset that’s going to be an extremely important tool in rebuilding your thoughts on and relations with women in this section; it’s a mindset that is of the utmost importance:
Listen to women’s actions, not their words.
What do women’s actions tell you? Well, often when men take things too slow, and take their time trying to get intimate, women disappear. Maybe they lose interest; maybe they think the man isn’t interested in them; or maybe they get scooped up by another man who moves faster.
Other times, when men take things too slow, women will press for much more than they would out of a man who moved faster: they’ll ask for nice dinners and gifts, they’ll ask for promises and assurances, and they’ll ask for a relationship. Even if that’s what you want, it’s better for you to give it yourself than it is to be put in the position of the woman demanding these things in exchange for intimacy. It’s very unhealthy for long-term stability in a relationship.
Make no bones about it, this is a critical mindset to have: you have to move fast. You have to. You may have some success moving slowly, but I guarantee you will have greater success moving fast. Slow and steady does not win you the race when it comes to romance and seduction; speed and persistence take the prize.
Moving quickly and confidently with women and not settling for the slower man’s indecision — and his often disappointing results — ends up being the #1 difference between sitting at home pining away for women… and become the man that women themselves pine after.
It’s eye-poppingly, paradigm-shiftingly startling the first time you invite a girl home with you on the first date and she says “yes;” after 10 or 15 times seeing this work though, after you end up with an amazingly beautiful, charismatic woman you previously would’ve deemed out of your league as your girlfriend, trust me, you’ll slap your head in consternation thinking back on how many women you lost by taking things too slow because you thought that was what they wanted. It happened to me, it’s happened to the guys I’ve trained in-person, and I get emails every day from guys who’ve read my book telling me it’s happened to them too.
If you’re ready to stop being the slow-moving, uncertain man with results that never seem to meet his expectations, and transform yourself into the confident, fast-moving man who knows what he wants and consistently achieves results with women and dating that go far beyond his expectations, it’s time you got yourself a copy of my complete, step-by-step manual on meeting and succeeding with women. I’m going to arm you with everything I’ve learned in 7 years of rigorously training myself and legions of other men to get unimaginable success with women, and everything you need to know to move with certainty and speed every step of the way, from the moment you meet a girl until the moment she’s yours.
It’s time you switched this part of your life into overdrive. Click here to get started right now:
See you soon.
Yours,
Chase Amante